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In Jonathan Haidt's recent essay in The Atlantic, he mentions that from ages 9 to 15 children's cultural and social attachments are being wired the most strongly. Christian parents and communities need to really ask themselves who is "wiring" their children culturally at that age.

Doctrine and sacramental prep is important. But - let's be honest - it's also really boring, and an hour a week of CCD + hour of Sunday mass does not create a "culture" that can make much of an impact in the face of 30+ hours a week of secular schooling and social media.

Culture isn't just belief. It's deep and consistent community. It's looking forward to liturgical seasons and rituals celebrated in a consistent way. It's seeing the same people week after week, and seeing them not just in the pews but at youth group and school and volunteering and visiting your house. It's running around in the church basement with the other kids while mom sets up tables for a luncheon or hanging out on the steps with friends after CCD or a youth group dance. It's both formal and informal.

I think parishes need to do four things to make the kind of immersive community that keeps young people:

a) celebrate liturgies and seasons in a consistent way. There is something deeply bonding about shared tradition and comforting about repetition. Novelty is disruptive - I'm not saying parishes should never change anything, but only do so thoughtfully and in response to a genuine need.

b) Start youth group young, in fourth or fifth grade

c) Connect religious ed to Sunday Mass and fellowship. Instead of CCD as a drop off activity on Monday night, have CCD between / after Sunday masses and provide coffee and donuts to parents for a regular fellowship hour. Parents are DYING for excuses to socialize with other adults sans kids! And it helps keep the kids close to the faith because kids become more bonded to a community when their parents are more bonded to it, and relationships built at fellowship hour turns into playdates with other Catholic kids and having other Catholic families over socially.

d) make space for spontaneity. Let church be a place kids can hang out. Let the CCD kids run around on the lawn while they wait for mom and dad rather than have an overly rigid dismissal procedure. (Obviously you have to be safe, but adults need to relax a little about the accumulation of endless and often overwrought "procedure.") Normalize volunteers bringing their kids and letting them play while mom sets up for bingo night or decorates the sanctuary for Easter. Keep the parish school sports field open for pickup games and open the playground to parishioners after mass. Church should be a place where kids feel comfortable and have spontaneous play with friends.

We focus so much on Catechesis and "programs," but culture is so much deeper than that and needs space for spontaneity, too.

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"Meanwhile, Catholicism’s future in the U.S. in the next 30-40 years will increasingly be connected to Hispanics and recent immigrants."

I believe people are overestimating the strength of immigrant faith over time. American secularism will eviscerate the faith of the second and third generation. Plus, "cultural catholicism" will allow for Catholic numbers to be inflated, since of that number, a huge portion are not even monthly mass goers. The actual % of mass going Catholics is plummeting and will continue to plummet no matter how many cross the border.

I would also mention that Latin & South America are seeing a decline in Catholicism and a rise in evangelical and charismatic Protestantism. So over the next 30-40 years who knows if those countries will remain Catholic at all.

The bottom line is that any idea that Catholicism is on the rise in this country or that the youth are turning to the Church en masse is a complete myth.

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