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Caitlin Bootsma's avatar

I'm not theologically opposed to married priests (like you, I've known some). My primary concern is for wives and current or future children. Especially in this overly busy modern world that is a ton for a wife of a priest to shoulder. There's been some interesting surveys of deacons' wives which probably would be helpful if this were ever to really be considered.

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Having been Orthodox and in a parish with a married (and subsequently divorced) pastor, having a good friend who is an Orthodox priest’s wife, and knowing many families of married Protestant pastors, I honestly can’t say strongly enough what a blessing the celibate priesthood is. A priest we know told a story about going to a hospital call of a family who said they had been told by their own Protestant pastor that if they ever had an emergency, they should always call for a Catholic priest, because Catholic priests will always come. So many Protestant ministers treat it like a day job and their family is their true priority, which it should be, but their congregations suffer. A Catholic priest lives within his parish boundary. He’s right there, day or night. Imagine with a married clergy—moving away from the parish due to cost of living or preference. The awkward situation of a divorced priest whose ex-wife is actively dating (a real scenario I’ve seen in the Orthodox Church). Is celibacy hard? Obviously. So is marriage. So is being single. Chastity is hard. Virtue is hard. I totally get that priestly celibacy is only a discipline but it is a blessing that many people take for granted, especially if you haven’t witnessed first hand what married clergy looks like in practice. It can be really, really messy. It’s not a panacea.

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